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Small Group Discussion Guide
"Confident in Prayer" | 1 John 5:13–15
Cornerstone Church
For the Facilitator: This guide is designed for a 60–90 minute group meeting. You don't need to be a theological expert to lead this discussion — your job is to create a safe space for honest conversation and help people connect Sunday's message to their everyday lives. Feel free to skip questions or spend more time where your group is most engaged. Estimated times are suggestions, not rules.
OVERVIEW
In this sermon from 1 John 5:13–15, we explored what it means to pray with genuine confidence. The pastor unpacked three key foundations: the assurance of our eternal inheritance in Christ, the understanding that God hears us as a loving Father, and the truth that praying "according to God's will" is not a roadblock to answered prayer — it's the guardrail that keeps us on the road. The goal is a transformed prayer life rooted in trust, not timidity.
ICEBREAKER
(5–10 minutes)
Before diving into the Bible and discussion questions, start here to warm up the group.
Question: Think of a time when you were really hoping for something — maybe as a kid, maybe recently — and you either got it or didn't get it. What was that experience like, and how did it shape what you expected in the future?
[Leader Tip: This question is intentionally light and non-spiritual to help people relax and open up. Let 3–4 people share briefly. You don't need to connect it to prayer yet — that will happen naturally as the discussion unfolds.]
SCRIPTURE READING
(5 minutes)
Ask a volunteer to read the passage aloud. Encourage everyone to follow along in their own Bible or phone.
1 John 5:13–15 (ESV)
"I write these things to you who believe in the name of the Son of God, that you may know that you have eternal life. And this is the confidence that we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. And if we know that he hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the requests that we have asked of him."
A Note on Context: First John was written by the Apostle John — the same John who walked with Jesus — likely near the end of the first century. He was writing to a group of early Christians who were struggling with doubt, false teaching, and uncertainty about their faith. The whole letter is about one central question: How can I know that I truly know God? This passage sits near the very end of the letter, and it connects that assurance of faith directly to our prayer lives.
Related Passages for Reference: (You don't need to read all of these, but they may come up in discussion.)
- Matthew 6:9–13 — The Lord's Prayer ("Our Father in heaven...")
- Luke 22:42 — Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemane ("Not my will, but yours...")
- Hebrews 5:7 — God heard Jesus' prayer in the garden
- Ephesians 1:15–19 — Paul's prayer for spiritual insight, not external relief
- 1 Peter 1:3–5 — Our inheritance that is "imperishable, undefiled, and unfading"
DISCUSSION QUESTIONS
(30–45 minutes)
Work through as many of these as time allows. Questions are organized from lighter and observational to deeper and more personal. You don't have to cover every question — choose what fits your group best.
SECTION 1: Starting Honest — Our Real Experience of Prayer
(Questions 1–3 | ~10–12 minutes)
1. What stood out to you most from Sunday's message — something that surprised you, challenged you, or that you're still thinking about?
[Leader Tip: This is your "landing" question after the icebreaker. It helps you gauge where people are and what themes to lean into. Don't rush this — let 3–4 people share before moving on.]
2. The pastor said that prayer is often one of our biggest insecurities as Christians — that it can feel like "sending mail and not knowing if anyone's opening it." How honestly does that description resonate with your own experience of prayer?
[Leader Tip: This question invites vulnerability. Model openness yourself if you're the facilitator. If the group is quiet, you might share your own honest experience first. Affirm that honesty here is welcome — there are no "wrong" answers.]
Follow-up if discussion stalls: "Has there been a season in your life when prayer felt especially difficult or distant? What was going on at the time?"
3. The pastor pointed out that when we worship, we're singing to God, and when we read Scripture, we're hearing from God — but prayer can feel more mysterious and uncertain. Why do you think prayer sometimes feels harder or more confusing than other parts of the Christian life?
SECTION 2: The Foundation — Perspective Changes Everything
(Questions 4–5 | ~10 minutes)
4. The pastor used the illustration of a child devastated over a torn Ariel dress — completely unable to see the bigger picture of a lottery win. He connected this to how we often come to God in prayer focused on our immediate problems, forgetting our eternal inheritance. Where in your own life do you find it hardest to keep that bigger perspective?
Read together: 1 Peter 1:3–5 — "Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! According to his great mercy, he has caused us to be born again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, to an inheritance that is imperishable, undefiled, and unfading, kept in heaven for you."
[Leader Tip: The goal here isn't to minimize real pain or tell people their struggles don't matter. The goal is to help the group see that our eternal inheritance gives us a different vantage point — not that our problems disappear, but that they don't have the final word.]
5. The pastor said, "The holier you are, the happier you'll become. The more confident you are in God, the holier you'll become." What do you think he meant by that? Do you agree or disagree — and why?
Optional follow-up: "How does confidence in who God is — not just what he can give us — actually change the way we live day to day?"
SECTION 3: The Father — Who We're Actually Praying To
(Question 6 | ~8–10 minutes)
6. The pastor shared how becoming a parent helped him understand the Lord's Prayer — specifically the words "Our Father in heaven" — in a whole new way. He described how his love for his daughters gave him a small glimpse of how much more God loves us. How has your understanding of God as "Father" shaped (or complicated) your prayer life?
[Leader Tip: Be sensitive here. Not everyone has had a positive experience with their earthly father, and for some, the word "father" carries pain. You might acknowledge this gently: "We know that not everyone's experience with their own father has been positive — and that can make this concept feel complicated. That's okay to name." God as Father is a corrective picture, not a mirror of our earthly experience.]
Optional follow-up for deeper sharing: "If you truly believed — deep down — that you were praying to someone who loves you perfectly and wants the best for you, how might your prayers sound different?"
SECTION 4: The Conditions — Guardrails, Not Roadblocks
(Questions 7–8 | ~10 minutes)
7. The pastor reframed "according to his will" from a barrier in the road to guardrails on either side of the road. What's the difference between those two images — and which one has more closely matched how you've thought about God's will in prayer?
Read together: Luke 22:42 — "Father, if you are willing, remove this cup from me. Nevertheless, not my will, but yours, be done."
Hebrews 5:7 — "In the days of his flesh, Jesus offered up prayers and supplications with loud cries and tears to him who was able to save him from death, and he was heard because of his reverence."
[Leader Tip: This is one of the most theologically rich moments in the guide. Help the group sit with the tension: Jesus prayed that the cross would be avoided, God "heard" that prayer (Hebrews 5:7), and yet Jesus still went to the cross. The answer to Jesus' prayer was the cross itself — because that was what was best for us and aligned with the Father's redemptive will. This is a profound mystery, not a contradiction.]
8. The pastor quoted Tim Keller: "God will either give us what we ask for in prayer or give us what we would have asked for if we knew everything he knows." Can you think of a time — looking back — when something you prayed for was either answered differently than you expected, or when a "no" turned out to be the better answer? What did that experience teach you?
Optional follow-up: "How does this perspective change the way you might approach a prayer you're currently waiting on?"
SECTION 5: Praying with Confidence — Not Sheepishly
(Question 9 | ~5–8 minutes)
9. The pastor challenged the group to stop praying "sheepish" prayers — timid, resigned, halfhearted — and instead to pray "outlandish" prayers with confidence, because we trust the Father who hears us. What would it look like practically for you to pray with more boldness this week? What's one thing you've been afraid to bring to God in prayer?
[Leader Tip: This question invites real, personal sharing. Give people a moment of quiet to think before asking for responses. You might offer your own example to get things going. Remind the group that this is a safe space — nothing shared here needs to leave the room.]
PERSONAL APPLICATION
(10–15 minutes)
These questions are more reflective and personal. You might invite people to share with a partner, journal quietly for a few minutes, or share with the full group — whatever fits your group's culture.
A. When you think honestly about your current prayer life — how often you pray, what you pray about, and how you feel about it — what's one word that describes it? What word would you want to describe it?
B. The pastor identified three foundations for confident prayer:
- Assurance of eternal life (perspective)
- God as a loving Father (relationship)
- Praying according to God's will (trust)
Which of these three feels most underdeveloped in your own prayer life right now — and why?
C. Is there a prayer you've given up on — something you stopped bringing to God because it felt pointless or unanswered? What would it look like to bring that prayer back to God this week, with the confidence that he hears you and wants what's best for you?
D. The sermon ended with the Lord's Prayer as a model. Read it together slowly:
Matthew 6:9–13 — "Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name. Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil."
What phrase from the Lord's Prayer feels most significant to you right now — and why?
THIS WEEK'S CHALLENGE
Choose one (or more) of the following to practice this week:
📖 Daily Prayer Experiment: Set aside 5–10 minutes each morning this week to pray out loud. Use the Lord's Prayer as your outline. Notice how it feels — and journal anything that comes up.
🙏 Pray the "Outlandish" Prayer: Identify one thing you've been afraid to ask God for — something that feels too big, too specific, or too uncertain. Bring it to God this week with confidence, adding: "Your will be done — but here's what's on my heart."
📝 Prayer Journal: Start a simple list of prayer requests and dates. Leave space to record how God answers — even if the answer looks different than you expected. Review it in 30 days.
👥 Pray with Someone: Ask one person from your group (or a friend) to be a prayer partner this week. Text or call each other with one specific prayer request and commit to praying for each other daily.
🔍 Scripture Meditation: Read Ephesians 1:15–19 each day this week. Notice what Paul prays for — and what he doesn't pray for. Let it reshape what you bring to God.
PRAYER FOCUS
(5–10 minutes)
Close your time together in prayer. Here are some suggested topics to guide your group's prayer time:
Gratitude — Thank God for the assurance of eternal life and the inheritance we have in Christ that no circumstance can take away.
Honesty — Invite group members to name (aloud or silently) one area where prayer has felt difficult, distant, or disappointing — and bring it to God honestly.
Transformation — Pray together that each person's prayer life would be genuinely transformed this week — not just informed, but changed.
Specific Requests — Give people the opportunity to share one specific prayer request with the group. Pray for each one together.
Boldness — Ask God to give your group the courage to pray "outlandish" prayers — not because you demand your way, but because you trust your Father.
Suggested Closing Prayer (for the facilitator to read or adapt):
"Father, thank you that we can come to you — not as strangers, but as your children. Thank you that you hear us, that you love us, and that you want what's best for us more than we even want it for ourselves. Help us to pray with confidence this week — not because we always understand your will, but because we trust your heart. Transform our prayer lives, Lord. Teach us to bring everything to you — the big things and the small things, the things we're afraid to ask and the things we've already given up on. We trust you. In Jesus' name, amen."
OPTIONAL DEEP DIVE
(For groups with extra time or who want to go further)
These bonus questions are for groups that want to explore the theological depth of this passage more fully.
Deep Dive 1: The Mystery of Unanswered Prayer
Read Hebrews 5:7 and 1 John 5:14–15 side by side.
The pastor pointed out something remarkable: Hebrews says God heard Jesus' prayer in the Garden of Gethsemane, and 1 John says that whoever God hears, he grants their requests — and yet Jesus still went to the cross. His prayer for the cup to pass was "answered" through the cross itself.
What does this teach us about the relationship between "hearing" and "answering" in prayer? How does this reframe what it means for God to "answer" our prayers?
Deep Dive 2: What Paul Prays For
Read Ephesians 1:15–19 and Colossians 1:9–12.
The pastor noted that Paul rarely prays for external circumstances to improve — even for people who are suffering and being persecuted. Instead, he prays for spiritual insight, deeper knowledge of God, and transforming faith.
What does Paul's prayer model reveal about where he believes our deepest problems actually lie? How might adopting Paul's prayer priorities change what we bring to God — and what we expect from him?
Deep Dive 3: "According to His Will" — What Does That Actually Mean?
The phrase "according to his will" (1 John 5:14) is one of the most discussed phrases in all of Christian theology about prayer. Some people use it as a way to hedge every prayer ("if it's your will..."). Others feel it makes prayer pointless ("God will do what he wants anyway"). Still others see it as a posture of trust, not a formula.
How do you understand this phrase? How does knowing that Jesus himself prayed "not my will, but yours" shape how you hold the tension between asking boldly and surrendering completely? What does a healthy "according to his will" posture actually look like in practice?
QUICK REFERENCE FOR FACILITATORS
| Section | Estimated Time |
|---|---|
| Icebreaker | 5–10 min |
| Scripture Reading | 5 min |
| Discussion Questions (Sections 1–5) | 30–45 min |
| Personal Application | 10–15 min |
| Prayer Focus | 5–10 min |
| Total | 55–85 min |
A Final Word for Facilitators: You don't have to have all the answers. The best thing you can do is show up, be honest, ask good questions, and create space for the Holy Spirit to work. If a question sparks a rich conversation, stay there. If something falls flat, move on. Your group is more important than the guide. Trust the process — and trust the Father.
Guide prepared for Cornerstone Church Small Groups | Based on the sermon "Confident in Prayer" from 1 John 5:13–15