This guest blog post draws directly from the sermon “Showcase - Harris Creek Sunday Morning | 11a |” so you can keep engaging with the message all week. Read, reflect, and share it with your small group or friends.

The Cancer We Ignore: Why Unforgiveness Is the Real Threat to Our Spiritual Health

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There's something about a great sermon that doesn't let you go after you leave the building. This past Sunday was one of those mornings. Pastor [Name] stepped onto the stage and, within the first few minutes, made a move that left the room genuinely unsettled — and then he used that discomfort to deliver one of the most convicting, liberating messages many of us have heard in a long time.

The topic? Forgiveness. And the way he got there was unforgettable.

An Unexpected Object Lesson

Pastor [Name] pulled out a pack of cigarettes, put one to his lips, and reached for a lighter.

The reaction was immediate. People shifted in their seats. Some were offended. Some were confused. And that was exactly the point.

He let the tension sit for a moment before making his case: "While you look at this cigarette and think, 'who do I email?'... what offends God is that we, the forgiven people of God, would harbor unforgiveness, resentment, and bitterness towards anyone."

The room got quiet. Because he was right. We'll react instantly to something visible and out of place — but we'll carry invisible unforgiveness into church week after week without a second thought. Pastor [Name] called it what it is: not just a personal struggle, but a spiritual cancer. And unlike secondhand smoke, it doesn't just damage us. It damages everyone around us.

Following the Spirit for Healed Relationships

The sermon is part of an ongoing series called How to Be Well, walking through principles of spiritual and relational health. This week's focus was on the horizontal dimension of our faith — not just our relationship with God, but our relationships with one another.

Pastor [Name] anchored the message in Romans 8:6, where Paul writes:

"For to set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace."

He was direct: when we default to our natural instincts — bitterness, envy, strife, unforgiveness — it leads to relational death. But when we walk in step with the Holy Spirit, peace follows. Not because we manufacture it, but because the Spirit produces it in us as we abide in Christ.

His illustration here was simple and memorable. Navigating a crowded international airport with his kids, he told them: "If you can't reach out and touch me, you're too far." That's the kind of closeness the Spirit calls us to — not a Sunday-only connection, but a daily, moment-by-moment dependence. He reinforced this with Hebrews 3:13: "Encourage one another daily, so that none of you may be hardened by sin's deceitfulness."

Forgiven People Forgive People

The theological heart of the message came when Pastor [Name] walked us through Colossians 2:13-14:

"And you, who were dead in your trespasses… God made alive together with him, having forgiven us all our trespasses, by canceling the record of debt that stood against us with its legal demands. This he set aside, nailing it to the cross."

He made it viscerally real. He held up a handwritten list of his own sins — drunkenness, pride, lying, lust, bitterness, and more — and described how that record of debt, with all its legal demands, was nailed to the cross of Jesus. Paid in full. Finished.

Then came the challenge: "How dare we have the audacity against a holy God who has forgiven us of everything to demand a debt for something so petty?"

He was careful to address the hard cases, too — not just minor offenses, but betrayal, abuse, assault, and the kind of wounds that alter the course of a life. He didn't minimize those. He pointed us to Jesus on the cross, mocked and in agony, saying "Father, forgive them" — and then he shared something deeply personal.

Years ago, after his first marriage ended in betrayal, Pastor [Name] found himself in seminary, still wrestling with unforgiveness. When he learned that the two people who had hurt him most were expecting a child, he opened his laptop and found their baby registry. With the little money he had, he bought them a gift and included Psalm 127: "Children are a heritage from the Lord… a reward from him."

"As I did that," he said, "I found the key that unlocks unforgiveness." Giving. Praying. Blessing. The cross is the key.

He also drew an important distinction: forgiveness and trust are not the same thing. Forgiving someone doesn't mean instantly restoring full access to your life. Reconciliation requires repentance and changed behavior. But forgiveness? That's not optional for the follower of Jesus. It's a command rooted in grace.

The Redeemed Write Their Wrongs

The third movement of the message turned the mirror around. What about when we're the ones who caused harm?

Pastor [Name] pointed to Matthew 5:23-24, where Jesus says:

"If you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift."

Worship can wait. Reconciliation comes first.

He offered a memorable framework using the acronym RAT — not flattering, but effective:

R — Recognize the wrong specifically, not vaguely
A — Ask for forgiveness (with a question mark — "Will you please forgive me?" not just "I'm sorry")
T — Take steps to change

He backed this with a story from his own past — returning to a former landlord whose home he had broken into multiple times during his years of addiction. He showed up, confessed, and handed her money he could barely afford to give. Her response was grace. But he was clear: "Obedience is not determined by the outcome. I'm not responsible for her response."

An Invitation to Open Your Hands

Pastor [Name] closed with one of the most moving moments of the service. He asked everyone to bow their heads and make a fist — as tight as they could. Then he invited the Spirit to bring to mind whoever it is we haven't forgiven. And then, slowly, to open our hands.

"Jesus, I release them to you. They owe me nothing. I forgive them as you forgave me — finally and fully."

It was a simple act. But the room felt different afterward.

We were reminded of James 2 — "Judgment without mercy will be shown to the one who has shown no mercy" — and of Mark 11:25, where Jesus says that when we stand in prayer holding anything against anyone, we are to forgive, so that our Father in heaven may forgive us.

This isn't about earning forgiveness. It's about evidence of having received it. Forgiving people have been forgiven. And the ones who can't seem to forgive may not yet understand the depth of what's been done for them.

If Sunday's message stirred something in you — a name that came to mind, a fist you're still holding tight — don't let the week pass without doing something about it. Watch the full sermon, share it with someone who needs to hear it, or take that first step toward a conversation you've been putting off.

The debt has been paid. You can open your hands.

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